So much in a Day!

With my recent real life experiences, I realise how much a human can learn from a day from dawn till dusk! It is amazing how much a child grasps from a day; every action, every word and every change grasped in mind and stored there! Growing every minute, changing without a fuss, accepting life without any complaints and moving with it! Wow! It is AMAZING! And is lovely to watch!

Why do we lose such a nice attitude when we grow older? Why aging doesnt retain the fresh and forgiving child's mind! I really wonder! Why shouldnt innocence, play and laughter continue to be with us? Why the nature sets the rules this way? Whats the use of maturity and growth if there is less of peace and happiness!

This mysterious life with so many unanswered questions!!

The Future!

Recently had a discussion on astrology etc and wish to write about it now. Do I believe in it? well, there are so many things on earth which you dont understand (long list including God and Me) , but cannot discard them as non-sense. I've heard people telling about the past and futures and dont know if the futures were right.

But if left to myself I dont want to know about my future and dont believe that anybody's life is set to happen in only one way! I think we have different paths or options left open to choose at every step in life and our future happens by the way we choose. Does it not make sense? Fair enough reason as Fate / God, life, nature and we have equal roles in deciding our fate? We may choose the right or wrong path but can never blame others for it, becos WE CHOSE! I think any astrologer sees only one path and either ignores or doesnt see the others. He may be right in a way but maynot know which way we will take. Life is interesting isnt it? the whole mystery about life is the beauty!

I dont understand why many of us want to spoil the beauty by trying to know abt future!

Happiness of non-violence!

Recently mentioned to a friend about the happiness I get when I forgive somebody, when I avoid hurting somebody and when I stop hating somebody! Wish to share this thought. If you have ever appreciated this feeling of light heartedness, feeling of self-satisfaction, feeling of relief when you forgive a person whom you almost hated, you may understand what I say. It feels really good and you realise with a surprise that you have a good heart inside and such understanding may transform you or bring the best out of you. the beauty is if all of us can realise the greatness in it, we may never fight, never abuse, never destroy anybody's life out of hatred. The beauty of non-violence! But I think it is hard to be totally non violent, in this world, in this civilisation. We may pay a heavy prize during our lives if we dont fight back the wrongs, if we cant defend ourselves! But we can probably try! Atleast die trying! (one of my friend's favorite quote)

why crime and men!

During my routine life whenever I read the newspaper in the morning, when I hear about my maid's everyday sufferings, when I watch the reckless driving on chennai roads, when I witness an unwarranted abuse......... I wonder why men(male gender) have an affinity to crime?
Am I feminist? Definitely not.
You may agree with me, if you too read about the numerous crimes by men all over the world everyday; if you too have a cook or cleaner whose husband spends all her earnings in alcohol and beats her for more; if you are a decent driver who wants to follow rules, if you were ever in the vicinity of terrorism!
Why? why the hunger for violence? why the desire to hurt? why the anxiety to overrule? Am not talking about everybody, but the majority. God or nature made them so? Let it be. But can they not change for good? For the good of this world, good of the children, good of those numerous poor women who lose their happiness and pride everyday to take care of the supposed to be providers!
Do I hate these men? No, am actually surprised by the way they live and sympathise their inability to live beautifully. Will the good God who made them transform them?
I remember Osho's writing now. He said humans stopped evolving long back. Information does not make you evolve, you have to transform to grow. The Change! The Big bang change!

Growing Old!

I am seeing more men and women who look, act and are younger than their actual age nowadays. The desire, effort and capability doing things! When I was remembering one such friend, a sudden thought occurred to me.

Why we feel bad about aging. Bad enough to be wanting to be young in mind and body. I do know that aging comes with the package of sore joints, dim vision and poor memory. But can we not accept it as life and not compare with the youthful past? Like youth, old age also has its own advantages. You are wiser, slower, non-impulsive, more-forgiving, less self-conscious, open and talking, willing to listen and share, have lot of time to make friends or socialise, patient and tolerant to mischievous children and many.............................. more good changes in life and attitude! We may not be very strong physically but when in life you have everything perfect? is a balance always!

So, why cant we say I am older and I like it? Like a child, who always wants to grow older. And Friends, who ever is reading this should remember this when I grow older!

Its my life!

Over the years I had listened to my friends and others when they talk about their lives; many a time just listening; sometime suggesting, advicing or arguing.

Recently I've realised that they have to live their lives their way, the way they can, they may or they will! In actuality my ideas etc etc does not matter! They have to choose, take effort, struggle or stumble but in their way! That is what they do anyway! Who on earth live for somebody else or by somebody else's advice? all of us live a selfish way, to satisfy our own mind, body or soul! In every sacred life you may find a selfish reason. Ofcourse we are all humane!! Born to live!

So, let me do the job I am best at. Listening! Just lend a ear, a shoulder or hand! Let them lean but let them learn to live too! And let me remember this when next time I am tempted to advice someone!!

Courage?

Does courage needs courage? I think so. All of us (at least most of us) need a brave heart to have courage when needed!

Courage to be ourselves, courage to see the truth, courage to face God, courage to lie for good, courage to grow old, courage to love again, courage to dream, courage to give up on dreams, courage to live with a stranger, courage to bring up a child and let him go, Oh! so much and more! And the courage to live!

So, are we all brave hearts?? Probably, although I don't have courage and don't see it in others at times! Humane! Aren't we?

Happy Birthday!

This I write for my friend who moves on to another year in his life, this week!

Should I write about achievements, failures, ideals, principles, dreams, hopes or compromises? Like every human being his life is full of these. And contains the additional package of happiness, sorrow, disappointment and pride which comes along in such life!

I had the opportunity to watch him go through this life to some extent. At this time, this may not be the best he deserves but he is doing well. He is living this life full, accepting it, facing it (mostly!), and trying his best to make it better for him and others. Though compromised on certain dreams, still holding on to many principles! And all the while never giving up on faith!

Faith in his God! Holding on to him strong, leaning on whenever he is weak, sharing the success and failure with him! I am always amazed and amused by your strong faith, my friend! (Although I may not agree with your concept always!) But I appreciate what you are doing now (which only a few would do) and wish you good luck for the next year! And let your faith give you the wisdom and courage to live happily! And to reach for your dreams!

Happiness!

I have to share this today!
My reflection on myself, how I've been fortunate to reach for happiness despite the odds in life! And how glad I am to be what I am now! It is a nice feeling to be satisfied with life on any particular time in life, and I should thank the Allmighty power for this!

Ellah Pughazhum Iraivanukkai!

Congratulations Rahman! You took us and Tamil to Oscars. Thank you!

Jai Ho Rahman!

A.R. Rahman represents us! chennai, India and especially our hardworking class!

And 'Slumdog millionaire' reflects our poorer class. Its life and the indomitable spirit!
I originally belong to the middle class India, where achievements donot/cannot happen without hope and hardwork. Changes in life can be sudden, dramatic, happy or hurting but life goes on with small moments of happiness cherished! You may neither be the best nor the 'good' but you have a heart which can love, hope and dream!
I watched the movie in one of the good Chennai theaters, loved it and the music was so powerful! Undeniably Rahman in his best. His usual style with added effects.
Wish you all the best Rahman! You deserve this and more! We are proud of you!

Love!!??

Today is valentines day and all the hype about passing love to and forth! In recent centuries with the change in priorities and perceptions, there is a growing number of 'Days' in memory of something or somebody! It sounds funny in certain cultures where that 'something/ somebody' is what you live with almost everyday. It feels good in certain places where living is different and words carry more meaning! It probably remains un noticed in various places all over the world where everyday living is a struggle or miracle!
But to be frank it is good to see red colored balloons filled with love floating around

Pay it forward!

I saw this title few weeks ago in my video lending library and couldnt resist. A lovely movie with an interesting concept!
Pay it Forward! today reminded again by one of the bloggers I follow.
Doing good intentionally? with effort!? We need to remember to do it, get it into our system as a habit, pass it on to others for good and remember to continue!
Sounds like conscious living? Yes, I think so. Consciously being our best! And bringing the best in others. There is lot of goodness in this world, isnt it?
Anyone who reads this can try to 'pay it forward', as I do!

Why not desire?

Remembering a quality of life study I read recently. Interesting findings! how our perception of life changes over years as we grow older!

Something which interests me often is the change in dimension of our love/desire for various objects ( including human). And our perception of love! Life seems to have a strange way of changing our priorities! Thus changing our perceptions!

All of us would have desired something or somebody at some point in life. How many of us would have held such desire for the same object for ever? Very, very few probably? So why there is so much hype about giving up desires when all of us are doing so by default! or by circumstances! Loads of books, theories and discussions on non-possession when most of us dont possess anything or anybody completely ever! I think living a routine life is the better way to live rather than talking about giving-up life!

Just live the way you can, gaining and losing, never knowing how the next moment will be!

Can free will change destiny?

Well. no comments about my God blog! Blogs also have a fate? looks like.
Anyway, I continue to write.

This time about Destiny!
Something about which we don't seem to have a clue anytime in life! You dream, plan, hope and are almost there, then things take a complete turn leaving you in the middle of something totally different, far away from what you would've imagined ever! You may complain, regret, worry but later may realise or accept it as destiny!

How many of us may think that we can really change our destiny by our free will/ by our effort or by our strength? I think I have altered certain pages of my life by my deeds, either for good or not-so-good changes. In the past and present, I realise, my decisions greatly influence my life. Is it similar to changing the destiny? Is it related to the 'Free will' we hear about? About the choices we make thus changing our lives?
Here I wish to mention the book I love to read anytime, the book introduced to me by a good friend- 'East of Eden' by John Steinbeck. I shall write about the interesting chinese cook sometime!

Shall we talk about God?

Let me start with God!
What do you consider as God?
A superhuman? A personification? Nature? An unseen power? Science? Fate? Destiny?
Or your conscience? Probably everything and anything?

What do I believe? Or think or imagine?
My thoughts and ideas have been different over the years. And now, on this day what I believe is that there is something unexplainable, beyond our grip which seems to have a strong influence on our lives and which we call by different names. Whatever we are, the so called believer or non-believer, religious or non-religious, most of us agree on the existence of some power that cannot be explained by our knowledge, science or wisdom.

But what surprises me is the division we create among ourselves despite the similarity we have in our belief for the super-power! We fight for the name, fame and face we have given to this power. Create ideas, literature, and history trying to prove what we say and how we call is the only truth. Invent an institution called 'religion' and imprison our belief by rules and limitations. Divide the society by these rules and kill our own tribe. The wisdom of acceptance we have as a child, we forget as we grow. When we grow we stop to evolve, recede in civilization and finally drift away from the superpower! Farther away from what we strongly believed, what we wanted to conquer and comprehend to make a peaceful living!

So are we all non-believers? Every one of us who believes in confining the super-power in a name/ religion/ human or ourselves and unwilling to see the same power in another human /in another living- what are we? So what is God to us? May be just the 'I’. The 'Me'! 'I' think this, want this and do this and so I am the God. Though there is truth in it, isn’t it selfish to see the 'God in me' only? Will my indifference to the God next door be excused?

Any God out there wanting to comment??