Recently mentioned to a friend about the happiness I get when I forgive somebody, when I avoid hurting somebody and when I stop hating somebody! Wish to share this thought. If you have ever appreciated this feeling of light heartedness, feeling of self-satisfaction, feeling of relief when you forgive a person whom you almost hated, you may understand what I say. It feels really good and you realise with a surprise that you have a good heart inside and such understanding may transform you or bring the best out of you. the beauty is if all of us can realise the greatness in it, we may never fight, never abuse, never destroy anybody's life out of hatred. The beauty of non-violence! But I think it is hard to be totally non violent, in this world, in this civilisation. We may pay a heavy prize during our lives if we dont fight back the wrongs, if we cant defend ourselves! But we can probably try! Atleast die trying! (one of my friend's favorite quote)
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I like your friend's quote. I personally find forgiving extremely difficult and am trying various techniques to master that truly fine art.
Great that you have been able to forgive and move on!
Hi shanthi,
‘To err is human and to forgive is divine’. It is nice to know that you are in the process of transforming to divine stature.
But I disagree; beg to differ, with you in many ways. Doesn’t sound strange to hate first and then to forgive. When one had elevated himself to forgiveness, first he must have abandoned hatred from his mind. My personal opinion regarding this: A person’s composition of good and bad manners as well as activities determines his liking/hatred from the society surrounding him. But I am sure that you would agree with me that no one is too perfect in life or no one is too bad to invite total hatred. The worst persons, I have interacted with also have many good [Hidden] qualities in them. I used to start having liking for that and I automatically forget [Not forgive] his bad qualities. If their activities affect my normal course of living, I would better avoid him and might even be telling him to stay away from me since both of us are not in the same wavelength. [Has happened many times with my doctors colleagues/ my subordinate technicians/ other professional/personal relations.] I wont term it as forgiveness [As I myself, I feel, is not that perfect, me a human too], but forget and going away from him.
With your last paragraph, I fully agree with you. ‘Fighting back the wrongs, otherwise paying a heave prize’. We may have to use words from lips full of anger and making others understand that we didn’t like that action. And just forgetting that moment later and not taking vengeance for their next action as well.
Most importantly, Not to forget, most of us make erroneous judgments in assessing others activities/ intentions and labeling them as ‘not so good’ people.
Anger and hatred are the two qualities which one should forego and there won’t be any need of forgiveness.
Regards,
Muthiah.p.
[NB: I am at loss of words to praise you for the advesa magazine].
Hi Kanchan.
been busy and just now checked blog. to remind you I am still verymuch humane! everyday!
Muthiah, Your refelctions on my thoughts are very interesting. I agree with you mostly. yes, i realise i talk abt forgiveness when i have load of hatred which i am unable to forget. I wish i were a child many a time! they forget and forgive like God!
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